The Gottman Method is one of the most research-backed approaches to couples therapy available. Developed over four decades of relationship research, it identifies specific patterns like criticism, contempt, and stonewalling that predict relationship breakdown, and replaces them with concrete tools for connection and repair. As a Gottman-trained coach based in London, I use this framework with individuals to build relationships on more solid ground.

Attachment theory explains how our earliest experiences of closeness and safety shape the way we show up in adult relationships. It can help us understand why we tend to withdraw, cling, or oscillate between the two and also why we pick certain partners. Understanding your attachment style is critical when it comes to overcoming self-sabotaging behaviours with romantic and platonic connections.

A lot of relationship support focuses on communication techniques and conflict resolution. Those things are useful, but they don't always get to what's underneath.

I spend time understanding your specific story: the patterns that have shown up across your relationships, the experiences that shaped how you connect with people, and what you're actually hoping for. That detail matters more than any framework.

From there the work is practical and forward-focused. Understanding the past is useful insofar as it helps you move differently in the future. Each session is oriented around where you want to get to, and we work backwards from there.

Mimetic desire is the idea that we rarely want things independently. We want what we see others wanting. Much of the career you're chasing, the relationship structure you think you want, even the version of yourself you're trying to become, is somewhat borrowed from the people around you.

It shows up in the gap between a life that looks right and one that actually feels right. When you achieve something you worked hard for and feel surprisingly empty. When you're not sure if a decision is yours or just the obvious next step everyone around you took.

Noticing it doesn't mean rejecting everything. It just gives you a better chance of figuring out what you actually want.

I offer an initial free consultation. Every session after that is £65.